My greatest fear

[Arbellason Marucha]

I've come to realize that my greatest fear in life is not finding another elven soul to spend my mortal life with, I fear this as it would require such a person to understand me and to see my true potentials. I can see there being problems with high standards such as these, the most prevalent is the honest fact that there are not many people like that and the chances of meeting such a person is slim. I stay hopeful though as hope is what will keep me going until then. I guess what I seek is a whole different level of love in a way as the relations I have had with those who did not believe was never what I needed regardless of how much I liked them otherwise. What do you think, is this a problem that prevents some from continuing on the path out of fear of not finding love? Not just for elven hearts but of all those who follow paths that are seldom followed. What could or should be done to solve this as I feel this may be something that affects many like us. I know the common advice is to first love yourself and such but for some that is a daunting task that sometimes requires help from someone you truly love to find yourself. Elves and other fae are not solitary beings afterall.

[Arbellason Marucha]

Well after some consideration I am putting myself out there as available for companionship, for those who are interested or want to get to know me better pm me.

[Arbellason Marucha]

Yeah I've looked around both otherkin and Pagan dating sites and either they are inactive or filled with people pretending to be such people. I honestly do not know if my spouse came with me to this world or not. Part of me thinks she did not and is awaiting my return while another part of m hopes she is here. Yet all things considered it is probably for the best if she did not so that she would not have to experience the harm that has been done to this world.

[Morell Sunweaver]

To be true there seriously isn't much to say at all.

I guess that dating site isn't the best, but better are forums where you can speak and get to know people by what they think and believe. That is how I found a friend mage in my country. He's human, but we can speak together very well.

[Arethinn aTinderel]

I'm not quite sure what to say here. I understand and feel the worry about being alone without another elven/otherkin/whatever soul to be with. I am fortunate that apparently my mate and I came here together, or have already been here a while (since we both at least remember human lives during WWII, if not further back, although it's not likely we experienced ourselves as "otherkin" at that time)... The fact that we are spread over a lot of platforms now, focused on individuals instead of community, may be a problem. It's simple now to have one's own "broadcast" point. Used to be we congregated in some lists and things. There is, or was at least, an "otherkin dating" site out there but that's... not really what most would want, I think. It's not the same as just being in the same communal space and perhaps chancing to find someone compatible.  Augh... I don't really know what to say.

[Morell Sunweaver]

That is great.

[Arbellason Marucha]

I would gladly work with you more, you being allied with melkor does not bother me much as it was Nienna afterall who thought he deserved another chance. I think we will take the ship together when it is time.

[Morell Sunweaver]

... Why is that we two don't work together much more? Is that me being alied with Melkor? I'm who I am and I don't think that it is that bad.

Yesterday I saw a ship in Grey Heavens, Manwe said that it will wait for me, until the time comes. Perhaps we will take it together.

[Arbellason Marucha]

would make it easier to take on more of it and perhaps do as Nienna had done and used sadness to let the two trees bear two final gifts to the world.

[Arbellason Marucha]

Yes giving all my love to the valar is still an option. I am wanting to find another elven heart to live with as I feel more can be accomplished. It would also help me with following Nienna as it involves carrying part of the sadness of this world. I sometimes am overwhelmed by it and having someone who understands this burden

[Morell Sunweaver]

I know what you feel. This world is a mess. I myself was thinking about finding some elf to live with, but I found out that it is meaningless on this planet. If you didn't bring your partner with you, then it is too hard to find one here without giving up our ways. This world has its ways and I don't think that it is willing to support ours now.

I would suggest to seek among people here as I know no other place where people take it seriously. But there isn't much of us either.

Or you can choose to spare time with your self developing.

I already choose not to seek anyone and I gave all my love to the Valar as I have no partner either and I get disgusted even when just thinking about children. And I spare some of my time here with you all.